I Have Officially Stopped Caring About My Own Opinion! 

I am formally No Longer Interested in my own thoughts!

Perhaps you are curious about this.  Have I lost my mind?  Have I finally gone completely insane?

Actually it feels like the opposite.  It feels like forward progress on my own spiritual awakening, and a positive surge in my own well being and health.  So let me tell you what I mean by this. 

I have a definite opinion and belief about those of us who follow gurus.  I also have a definite opinion about those of us who have "rigid" beliefs about food.  I always knew that neither one of those were for me. 

I Just Had to Get Over What I "Thought!"  

Because last month, I realized that there was a "guru" who I really wanted to learn more about.  The more I learned about him the more curious I became.  Now that kind of intrigue feels good. That is a YES, no matter what my opinions are. 

So I listened to my feelings.  I heard my thoughts, but ignored them.  Thoughts like, "Oh that is such a hassle.  It is too expensive.  What a bother.  You'll  never really do that." 

Yes, I flew all the way from NJ to the ashram, way out in Tennessee.   And I am so proud to tell you that I went, despite that loud chatter going on in my head.

And am I ever glad that I did.  I now follow the guru's easy daily practice.  Even more shocking to me, is that I have changed my eating.  He suggested eating mostly raw foods and vegetarian in a way that made so much sense to me, that again, I became extremely curious. 

Mind you, I  was not at all interested in following a guru, or in becoming a raw vegetarian.  In fact, they were last on my list.  But I was extremely curious, and I am committed to letting my Yes emotions be my truth. 

I Don't Care What I Think!

Despite what my head was telling me, and what my opinions were, I have definitely been experiencing more authentic happiness and joy since I began following the guru's practice.  I wake up in the morning, early, feeling both motivation and gratitude.  And this is happening easily, simply by my change of habits. I wake up, and get things done with a great relief in stress. In fact, things have felt much easier and much more focused. 

So I do not care what I think.  I only care what I feel.  And what I feel is better!!  My well being and health are the most important things in my life.  How about you?

You may never meet a guru, and you may never need to.  But you and I have a very powerful guidance system within us.  And that is the power and wisdom of our emotion.  Let it help you shut off the loudness of your own opinions.  Perhaps you'll find your own way to authentic happiness too.

If anyone is curious about what I have been learning, feel free to contact me via email at sherry@sherrygoldman.com or call my Counseling Service at 732-557-0354.

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Repressed Anger

Talk About Mood Swings!

I have been feeling so angry the past few months.  With all my anger techniques, and tools on anger control, I was really beginning to wonder about myself.  What was going on?

I could not figure out how to manage my anger and my upset.  I was chronically feeling stress and anger.

Overcoming Anger

I did not know what to do.  So I finally decided to STOP!  What I mean by that is, I slowed way down.

Like most of us, I drive myself fairy hard.  I run, I do yoga, I work, I commute, I drive my daughter to her school, I am working on my on-line business.

I love everything I am doing.  But I was feeling horrible?  Hmmmm?

So I stopped rushing to yoga before work.  Ahhh.  I did not run every morning during the 99 degree heat wave of July.   Ahhhh.  I took a break from working on my on-line business.  Ahhhh.   I felt like a kid on summer vacation.  It was fantastic!

And then I found out that I was anemic.  No wonder I was so darn tired.  So I am taking iron, no longer anemic, and chilling out.  I cannot remember a time when I had more authentic happiness or a deeper sense of well-being and health.

So I am relearning what I already knew.  More is not always better!  Some times more just means more stress and anger, more anger issues, and more need for anger classes.

So here is wishing you a lot less repressed anger, and a lot more authentic happiness.  Slow down and smell the roses.  Enjoy your summer.  I know I am.

See you at the beach!

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Relief of Stress, Please!

I Need Relief of Stress, NOW!

I feel it in my entire body.  I know I want to feel better.  It’s easy to know that.  But I have no idea how to get the relief of stress I want!  I am at a loss!

So What Do We Do, When We Don’t Know What to Do?

We have all heard things like:  Keep an attitude positive.  Have motivation and gratitude.  Use affirmations.  Be positive.

Blah, blah, blah, blah.  When I am miserable, all those sayings and quotes are useless.  They do not answer my question. How to I feel better?  How to I get relief from the stress?

If you are really ready for some answers, then read on!

1)  Focus on Your Breath.

I force myself, as gently and kindly as possible, to slow down.  This intuitive process of feeling better will not come to me from a pressured mindset.  So I look to find,,, induce….. create….. as much of a natural calm as I can.  In a way, I am looking for some instant hypnosis.

The easiest way I have found to get my natural calm, or instant hypnosis, is to focus on my breath.  I, deliberately, focus on the in-and-out of my breath, for about 20 seconds. Without working at it, this naturally induces a feeling of ease.

I first learned this as a marathoner, running races.  One of my coaches taught me to take deep breaths when I was overworking in a race.  It was to help me get more oxygen, and to help my body relax, without having to stop running.

Try it some time.  You will see what I mean.

2) Observe your Emotions.

As I am focusing on my breath, I nonchalantly observe my emotions.  I do not analyze, interpret, or fix anything.  I am simply observing.

This is actually a profound way of being with ourselves.  We often overlook it.  We get so busy thinking about what to do, and problem solving, that we miss these crucial, easy steps.  And, this is how we will begin to receive answers.

3)  Get Clear on Your NO.

What I mean by this is, I let myself unravel, as clearly as possible, what I do not want.  I do not want to go to that function……  I do not want to go to work today and deal with my boss……  I do not want to go shopping with my spouse……  I do not want to spend my money on that gadget.  I do not want to clean up that mess…….  Whatever!

This is a crucial step.  Get clear on what you don’t want.  Get clear on what is upsetting you.

4) Get Clear on Your YES.

Now you must begin to think about what you want.  What outcome you want.  What goal you want.  What emotion you want to feel!  How it will feel as you get what you want.

All this breathing, observing, and noticing what you don’t want, will make it easier to begin to know what you do want. Remember, you do not know how to get it, yet.  However, you have turned the crucial corner.

You have stopped focusing on what you don’t want.  The Law of Attraction-Secret dictates that we ge what we are focused on with emotion.  So as long as you are focused on what you don’t want, you are going to get more of it.

5) Imagine Receiving Your YES.

Now it is time to allow in your authentic happiness.

This is the real work of having a great life.  You must imagine, before it arrives, and before you know how it will come, what it will be like to receive your YES.  This is also crucial to mastering The Law of Attraction-Secret.  Now you are a magnet for the answers to come to you.  As long as you are focused on the YES, and in this positive mind set, you are in the necessary place to receive the answers to your questions.

You now watch carefully for the clues that will come.  The clues will absolutely come.  As long as you focus on receiving them, you will get them.  The easiest, quickest way to receive the true essence of what you want, will become clear to you.  If you slip up and resume problem solving, you will feel stress again, and no longer receive the clues.

By the way, Emotional Freedom-EFT can help make this entire process even easier.

This is the art of mastering a great life!  Try it today.  Let me know how it goes!

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EMDR Therapy EMDR

EMDR Therapy

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) (EMDR) Therapy has helped two million people.  It is an amazing tool that can help you too!

It is extremely successful in the relief of stress from Post Stress Disorder.  However, it is also works wonderfully with most disorders of anxiety.

Therapy with EMDR was discovered in 1987 by psychologist, Dr. Francine Shapiro.  EMDR Therapy is one of the few researched techniques, with proven effectiveness, especially with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Post Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Post Stress Disorder occurs during trauma or intense upset.   Symptoms of Post Traumatic Disorder can be acute.  These symptoms often dont change, despite all attempts to prevent or eliminate them.

During trauma, our brain may not process information in the usual manner.  Post Traumatic Disorder symptoms result if the memory becomes frozen in our mind, or unprocessed.  This stress can cause depression symptoms, stress in coping, intense anxiety in thoughts, feeling out of control, intense anger and rage, inappropriate sadness or guilt, inappropriate feelings of inadequacy, inappropriate feelings of loneliness, intense stress and tension.

Get Relief of Stress!

EMDR Therapy is unique in that it succecessfully brings relief of stress, and relief of the symptoms, from Post Traumatic Disorder.  This relief os stress happens because EMDR Therapy both neutralizes and re-processes the painful trauma memories, eliminating symptoms.

Post Stress Disorder can result from major trauma such as natural disasters, accidents, life threatening events, or emotional and physical abuse.  However, Post Traumatic Disorder can also occur from incidents involving humiliation, embarrassment, loneliness, rejection, fear, etc.   Frozen memories can be triggered easily unless healing, holistic methods like EMDR Therapy are used .

Quick Results

Therapy with EMDR is usually much quicker, and more profound, than traditional talk therapy. It uses left brain, right brain activity, (similar to the REM movements of sleep), to reprocess and heal the frozen memory.  You still have the memory, but are free of the painful images, sounds, smells, and feelings.  Therefore, you will no longer be triggered.

Painful nightmares can be eliminated.  Depression can lift.  It can cure a phobia or fear.  It can calm anxiety.

EMDR Therapy can also help change habits, instill motivation and gratitude, and reinforce affirmations-positive.  Athletes and performers often use it for performance enhancement and performance breakthroughs.

In my counseling service, I combine and integrate a high-level approach to EMDR Therapy. I use it along with other healing, and holistic techniques.  The results are a profound body, mind, healing!

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