Attention Deficit Disorder is a neuro-biological disorder. Researcher currently believe that the symptoms are caused by chemicals in the brain not working properly, and also differences in the actual brain structure. It frequently runs in families.
Not surprisingly, kids with Attention Deficit Disorder, (ADHD), have a range of issues with attention, learning, and impulsivity. They may be under achievers in school, act out, be hyper, disobedient, and wild. More common in girls they may very day-dreaming, lose focus, and not be able to finish tasks.
These children may have trouble with neatness, finishing school work, and doing chores. They may have great trouble obeying orders, and taking turns. They may have poor boundaries, and miss social cues. They may seem totally absorbed in themselves.
What doesn’t make sense is that they may actually be very intelligent. It just seems impossible to get it out of them. And to make things a bit more confusing, when they are excited, or interested, they can focus and accomplish great things. However, if the task is boring, they will not be able to complete it, or may seem to forget it.
You can imagine that these behaviors greatly trouble teachers, peers, and parents In fact, parenting an ADHD child can lead the most skilled of parents to really wonder about their parenting abilities. The impulsiveness can be quite challenging.
The most dangerous thing about ADHD is how often it is misunderstood. Parents see their child as lazy, sloppy, and disrespectful. Teachers see the child as misbehaving, lacking motivation, and acting out. Peers see the child as self centered and rude.
The good news is that these children can benefit from getting help. If the above paragraph sounds like one of your children, then go see an ADHD expert.
The last thing you want to do is to send your child to “therapy” for misbehaving. Don’t let child suffer in school, and watch them lose their self esteem. Someone trained in ADHD will know how to help, rather than see their behaviors as character flaws. In addition, the entire family can be helped with guidance as they learn new coping skills, and new options.
Sherry Lynn is a Certified ADHD Consultant, and an expert in these issues. ADHD work is usually is more like coaching than therapy. It is positive, upbeat, educational, and behavior focused.